Speaking with her, detach part of your mind from the conversation, and gradually key your verbal responses to the cadence and timing of her speaking rhythm. Walking by her side, carefully copy her pace and cadence. Facing her, match her every breath, even her blink rate. You are trying to synchronize your physiological rhythms. The objective is to forge a harmony, a resonance, a unity from your physical nearness.
This methodology is presented for informational purposes only ("Don't
try this at home, folks..."). Such techniques have their dangers
and are not appropriate for general use, as there are very serious
ethical implications.
Caution and discretion advised.
Glendower: I can call spirits from the vasty deep.
Hotspur: Why, so can I, or so can any man;
But will they come when you do call for them?
Be friendly, but not fawning. Make eye contact. Come across as non-threatening, but somewhat detached, with an enigmatic air. Speak softly, but authoritatively.
Stand straight and show pride. Radiate warmth and self-confidence. Illuminate your personal space with your smile.
+ "Sadie Hawkins Day" dances, where it is expected that the woman selects her partner. + Certain meeting places, such as the notorious Café Keese, in Berlin, Germany, where it is the norm for women to invite men to their tables.
Keeping your poise in front of a group. Organizing your thoughts into a coherent presentation. Voice control.
(based on research fragments by an unidentified student) For most of human history, single men have not had to concern themselves with meeting and courting women. Arranged marriage was the norm. Dating and relationships did not occupy a place in everyday life, and the social skills necessary for the practice of same were superfluous. Outside the sanction of marriage, seduction and secretive assignations were relatively common. "Romantic love" is a somewhat recent innovation, originating in the High Middle Ages, most notably in the Twelfth Century court of Eleanor of Aquitaine, and spread among the royalty and aristocracy by wandering troubadors and minstrels. It is only since the Industrial Revolution and the rise of the Middle Class that the custom of marriage based on love gained wide acceptance, that is to say, respectability. This is not to minimize or deprecate the role of attraction between persons, both on a physical and spiritual level, as a motivating factor in all the matings and couplings that have taken place throughout the ages. Men and women have always managed to circumvent the conventions and restraints of society in order to satisfy their own needs. Social boundaries exist to keep natural urges within bounds, to "tame" them for the sake of the common good. It is in their success in dealing with this apparent contradiction, in finding a balance point between the needs of the individual and the greater social good that civilizations are judged... The pages following are badly water-stained and illegible. |
... for love is strong as death, passion cruel as the grave; it blazes up like blazing fire, fiercer than any flame.